Men are interesting species. Love itself is an interesting phenomenon. It seems that no matter how many goals we set in life, love is the highest goal. How do we capture this intangible, immeasurable, addictive item, and how do we keep it? First, capture your own heart. There are too many reasons in today’s society for women to be insecure. If you are struggling with body image, trust issues, or any other forms of insecurity, love will not come easily.
While the relationship may be fine in the beginning, it will dwindle. Once the “honeymoon” phase is over, your insecurities will creep out. You may be at the bar and begin to notice better looking people than you. You catch him glance that direction (maybe not even at her). You’re now mad, and he has no idea why. Eventually, this will turn into a fight.
That feeling of uneasiness will not go away until you are no longer insecure about yourself. It takes time, but you must realize that you are smart, beautiful, and wonderful, even if it is different than the other people around. Secondly, you must be your own person. Too many women want to turn into the person they are dating. They will pick up similar interests and start the same hobbies.
This not all bad, and it is very important to share common interests, but make sure you retain your own identity. He started hanging out with you for a reason. He likes who you are, not you trying to be the woman you think he wants. Keep up with your friends and interests. He enjoys the time to relax, play video games, hang with the boys, whatever it is that makes him him.
Lastly, do not over analyze on how to capture his heart. Men are actually quite simple. Women will often be the ones to complicate things. Men typically say what they mean and mean what they say. If they don’t, leave that heart alone. If you text him about going somewhere with you, and he responds with, “Yeah, sure.” That’s what he means. There is no sarcasm or malicious intent. He is not being short with you; he is just being efficient. The fact that he did not include a smiley face emoji does not mean that he is mad. He means yes, he would like to go. Keep these three tips in mind, and you will be much closer to being the keeper of your man’s heart.